How to lose weight after pregnancy


This is a topic that I have googled many times. After having baby #3, I am eager to shed the pregnancy pounds like many moms out there. Unfortunately for myself, I tend to gain a lot of weight when I’m pregnant. I am to blame as I feast when I’m pregnant. I eat whatever I want, whenever I want. (except for the regular food restrictions that your doctor recommends i.e. raw meat, deli meat, sashimi, etc.) When I’m pregnant, I get super hungry and if I don’t feed myself, I feel like I’m going to die!  So, I ate! But you know what, that’s ok, because you’re supposed to gain weight when you’re pregnant. Your body is creating a human being with organs, a circulatory system, bones and all! Pretty amazing! I still can’t believe that I popped out three of these! So once you’ve popped out babe, give yourself a pat on the back because you did well mama! It’s not easy, the nine months, carrying that bundle of joy in your tummy.

Now, after your doc has given you the ok to start exercising again, you can tackle those post pregnancy pounds. As soon I was all recovered and healed, my husband and I tried our best to get active again.

We tried badminton. I think this really helped. Really got our heart rates going. I heard that interval training is really good for you. For those of you who don’t know what interval training is, Wikipedia says its, ” a type of physical training that involves a series of low- to high-intensity exercise workouts interspersed with rest or relief periods.” This helped us knock off a couple of pounds. With a new born, it began to get hard to find time to go to the courts so that didn’t last very long. It was getting hard to find a someone to watch all the kids while we went out.

We also tried shakes as meal replacements. This seemed to work for a bit as well especially for my hubby. He never had breakfast anyways so at least he was having some form of nourishment rather than none. For me I was left hungry and dehydrated so that didn’t work out so well. When moms are breastfeeding it is very crucial that they drink constantly throughout the day to prevent their milk supplies from decreasing. ( has some great info on this topic). It’s also important to have a well balanced diet.

I also tried exercising more! I did Zumba on the Wii. This was good because it was in the comfort of my own home. I could do it while baby was sitting in her bouncer. It was free and I could do it anytime! Although it made me feel good and I felt like I had more energy, the scale results didn’t change. I enjoy walking outside with the baby in the carrier, but it was cold outside and rainy so I had to find things to do inside. I also tried going on our elliptical at home which just made me really sweaty.

I also tried the South Beach Diet. But the low carbohydrate diet just made me really weak.

As you can see, I tried many things.

Then I learned that weight loss is generally 75% diet and 25% exercise. Studies have shown that people lost more weight by watching what they ate rather than exercise alone.

Now I follow these simple rules. I eat to my hunger and drink plenty of water throughout the day. The pounds are starting to come off. Not quickly though. It’s very gradual which is a healthy weight loss.

  1. Focus on eating plenty of vegetables. Half my meal is composed of vegetables, usually prepackaged salads that you can get from Safeway. It’s already washed and comes with all the toppings. I just go easy on the dressing. It’s easy to prepare.
  2. The other half of my meal is meat. Usually a frozen meat from Costco like chicken, beef or fish. I know frozen foods aren’t the healthiest but it beats ordering a meal from McDicks.
  3. I eat two eggs for breakfast. Keeps me full till lunch time.
  4. I drink plenty of water. I still have my coffee with sugar in the morning but I try really hard to avoid drinking sugar. I like to have lemon in my water to give it some flavor and it looks really pretty too!
  5. If I need a snack I go for fruits, cheese and grain bread. I love grain bread!
  6. I avoid buying any food that’s in a box like cookies etc.
  7. Avoid foods that are white like white rice, white pasta, and white bread.

I love my desserts though especially cake and key lime pie! It’s ok to indulge once in a while. If you are trying to lose weight, some experts say it’s ok to have a cheat day. Most people chose Saturday. Just know that if you indulge, it will hinder your progress.

Hope this helps!

Let me know if you have any recommendations.


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How to deal with a toddler’s terrible tantrums


Tantrums. They are so frustrating. My second child (who is 3 almost 4) constantly has them. Some days I feel like I need to pinch myself because I can’t believe they are actually happening. The non stop screaming, crying, kicking and rolling over the floor. It’s usually about something ridiculous. She usually wants something or is looking for something. Today she wanted a straw, a wide straw which she could connect to a pencil.

It drives us moms crazy to the point where we are screaming back at them and putting them into time out. (Do time outs really work? I don’t know.) But we feel that we need to punish them for their bad behavior in the hopes that it will get corrected and they will somehow learn from it. Well, I’ve tried the time out strategy many times and did the behavior change? No.

Here are some of the strategies that I have used.

1. distraction– Where I point to some animal outside (like a cat or raccoon that’s not really there) and tell them to look at it. This sometimes works. They all run to the windows and look for it and when they see that it’s not there, I tell them they missed it.

2. change the topic– I will just start making something up or talking about what I did today. This usually catches them of guard for a moment and then they remember why they were crying.

3. Start playing pretend– I just tried this today. She was crying because she wanted me to make her a key out of a ribbon. I don’t know, and then I started to play pretend with her. I pretended I was her customer and I wanted to buy cupcakes from her. This worked. She loves playing pretend! She loves to play the cashier.

4. Suggest a fun activity– This also worked for me. Daughter was in the middle of a tantrum and I said, “Want me to put nail polish on your toe nails?” She immediately perked up and totally forgot about what she was crying for.

5. Get really silly– Like making silly faces or pretending to have a tantrum yourself. They then realize how ridiculous they are and find it funny how mommy is having a tantrum.

If all else fails and you’ve tried every trick up your sleeve, get help! Go to the grandparents’ house where someone else can try to entertain them for you.

But seriously speaking though, usually when kids have a tantrum, it’s because of some underlying emotional need. Heck, my husband has tantrums. (Love you hubby if you are reading this.) For him, its either he’s tired or hungry. Usually he’s Hangry! haha. Just feed him and he’s all better. I think of him as the first baby.

I’ve read some parenting articles and learned a thing or two. We need to remember that children are not small adults. We can’t always expect them to behave the way we want. Their brains are too immature. Instead we should respond with care and compassion. I have tried this and it seems to work. I crouch down, I get to their level and I try to listen, fully to what they have to say. Don’t get me wrong, this approach is sometimes very hard as it is hard to keep your cool all the time. Then, after listening, I show I understand them by showing empathy. Next I say, “I know you feel sad when you can’t find your toy, right?” and then the kid nods and says yes. She begins to calm down and then we can focus on something else. This doesn’t always work but it sometimes does.

Also, when kids are crying, it usually means they are sleepy, tired, or hungry. When I cant stand the constant fighting between the two older kids and the baby is restless I say that’s it we’re leaving. We all jump in the van and we go for a ride. This usually puts everyone to sleep and then I can have at best 15 to 20 minutes of quiet time.

When your kid has a tantrum, try these strategies and see if it helps! Let me know if it worked for you or not and If you have your own tricks!

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My first post ever! Hello Blogging World!


Hey there, friend! My name is Emily and I am brand new to the blogging world. I was inspired by Abby Lawson, blogger from to start my own blog. I am a busy mom of three young girls. The youngest is 9 months old and let me tell you, being a mom is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. Everyday is a challenge. Whether it’s dealing with three kids crying all at the same time or dealing with all the mess around the house or the endless laundry, it’s never a dull moment. Although it is very stressful and challenging, most would agree that it is the most rewarding experience in one’s life. Currently, I am on maternity leave and somedays you just need to refocus your attention on something worthwhile. Most nights, when the kids are finally all asleep, I have my own alone time! I’m sure you moms out there know what I’m talking about. Many a night, I find myself just surfing the internet, looking for what to buy next. I thought, I need to spend my time wisely doing something productive. Instead of just buying things that I don’t need, like another baggy t-shirt or more shoes to fill my ever-growing shoe collection, I can write a post and share my experiences with other moms and hopefully, help someone. After all, when we help someone, we feel happy. And thus, I created We all want to be happy. Whatever we focus on grows and I want to put in my two cents and help other moms to be happy too! Here’s to happy moms! Let’s do this! 🙂

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