Now that I’m back to work full time after maternity leave, life is just crazy. I have to do all the things that I was doing before when I wasn’t working a job (i.e. the house work, laundry, groceries, kids activities) on top of working a full time job. With all the things we have to do, it’s hard to remember our priorities. I have to constantly remind myself of what’s important to me and I try to do those things first. It’s not easy. Sometimes, the things that are most important end up last on our list. Why is it like that? I can’t say. It’s a constant struggle.
But, in the midst of everything, we have to constantly remind ourselves that our lives aren’t as bad as we think they are. Yes it is busy, but we have to remember to be grateful for all that we have to ground ourselves and bring us back down to earth. We need to put things in perspective and think about how we can make things better for ourselves so that we’re not as stressed out and bogged down with all the little things.
And when I say little things, I mean this. Is it really important that the house is spotless? Is it really important to clean up all the toys scattered all over the floor? Is it really important to make sure the laundry hamper isn’t over flowing? When we can be doing other things, like playing outside with the kids, going on adventures, catching up with family and loved ones. In life we always have to make decisions and trade offs. We can’t do everything!
I’ve been reading a lot of other mom blogs to learn from them, and I’m starting to see a lot of moms deciding to stay home so they can focus on just being with the kids. I’d love to be there for my kids consistently, you know, taking them to school, being able to participate in school activities and field trips etc, but at this point in our lives, I need to work as many moms out there do.
Here are my 10 survival tips for the working momma!
1. Get Help!
Lucky for us, we get a lot of support from the grandparents! Oh what would we do without them. They are our life savers! They watch the kids for us while we work. They cook dinner for us so we don’t have to worry about cooking after work. They even let me nap after work to catch up on some needed sleep! It’s such a blessing! Get help from family for childcare if possible. If that’s not going to work, get hired help whether if it’s for childcare or for house cleaning, if the budget permits.
2. Block off time to spend with the kids
When we are working constantly, sometimes we feel like we aren’t spending enough time with the kids. On your days off, plan an activity with the kids. Plan a playdate. Go to the playground. Whatever activity you choose, make sure that this time spent with them is quality time where you are completely focused on them and not distracted by your phone or computer. Give them 100% of your attention.
3. Block off time for date night.
Don’t forget the hubby-kins. The hubby needs attention too. Block a day off for date night. Schedule child care. Treat yourselves out for a nice dinner, watch a movie, or go on a hike. Whatever it is, make time for it.
4. Buy frozen
For me, cooking has always been a challenge. For some people, I guess it just comes naturally for them. But for me, it’s a lot of work so I like to buy frozen meats from Costco like their salmon burgers or chicken breast stuffed with cheese and broccoli. My kids also like their mini pizzas and meat lasagna. Fresh is always better of course and healthier, but realistically not always possible (in my case at least).
5. Do a little laundry everyday
If you read one of my previous posts, I recommended doing laundry twice a week because that way you are not doing laundry everyday. Now that I’m back to work full time, I have found that at least one load of laundry everyday helps keep the laundry situation under control. At least the hamper won’t be overflowing and the kids and your hubby will always have clean underwear available. hehehe…If you do a little everyday, you won’t be overwhelmed with loads and loads of laundry to do.
6. Treat yourself nice
It’s ok to treat yourself nice. Go for a massage. Get your nails done. Buy yourself a new outfit or a new dress. Day to day, your focus is always on the kids and everything but yourself. Once in a while, do something nice for yourself. And I don’t mean go all out and spend everything left in your bank account. It doesn’t have to be expensive. We need to take care of ourselves if we expect to take care of everyone else.
7. Socialize. Hang out with your friends.
If you’re like me, socializing is sometimes low on my priority list. I tend to put everything else first like the housework and the kids’ activities, but I am realizing it’s important to go see your friends and socialize. Relationships matter. Friends help rejuvenate us. I need to take my own advice! LOL!
8. Remember what you’re grateful for
I’ve said this in a previous post and I’ll say it again because to me it’s really important. I truly believe that you will get more of whatever you are grateful for and whatever you focus on grows. If you focus on the negative, you will see and get more negative. If you focus on the positive, you will see and get more positive. It’s amazing how changing our thinking slightly can positively affect our lives.
9. Give yourself a break! Don’t be too hard on yourself!
If you weren’t able to make the house spotless, it’s ok. If you weren’t able to finish the laundry, it’s ok. If you weren’t able to attend the field trip, it’s ok. We can’t always have everything perfect. Cut yourself some slack.
10. Enjoy the journey
Don’t sweat the small stuff. Remember to smile. Relax and know everything will be ok. Be present. Life is too short to be stressed out. (Remember, I need to take my own advice!)
These tips can be for anyone not just working mommas.
I hope these tips are helpful!