Someone once told me, that hard work is being positive at all times. As parents we know, that being positive is such a challenge. Try being positive when your baby throws up all over the comforter after you just washed it. Try being positive, when the whole house is a mess, the laundry hasn’t been done in a week, and all the kids are hungry for dinner and you haven’t had anything to eat yourself. Try being positive when your older child has piano and reading homework to finish but can’t because she’s having a huge tantrum. It’s really hard for us in these situations! But many experts suggest that being positive is a choice. It’s a habit that we can learn.
According to Mayoclinic.org, there are many benefits to positive thinking.
- Increased life span
- Lower rates of depression
- Lower levels of distress
- Greater resistance to the common cold
- Better psychological and physical well-being
- Reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
- Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress
It’s amazing how changing your mindset can affect your physical health! Here are three ways to have a more positive mindset.
- Think about what you are grateful for– When I’m feeling sad, disappointed or stressed out, I try to remember what I’m grateful for. I’m grateful for my spouse, my beautiful children, my family, my house, my health, our peaceful country. The list goes on and on. There are so many things to be grateful for and when I focus on those things, I remember how great everything actually is. Somewhere out there, someone is having a worse day than us. Whatever we focus on grows. Whatever we are grateful for expands. The more grateful we are for the things we love, the more we will get of it.
- Look forward to something– Have you every planned for a big vacation? Or anticipated a big event like family members visiting from out of town or a big wedding? Have you ever planned a trip to Disneyland and counted the days till you left. The anticipation is what makes us more happy than the actually trip. If you want to have a positive mindset, plan something special. It doesn’t have to be a big trip to a tropical place. It can be a massage, date night with the spouse, a weekend get away, or dinner with good friends.
- Help someone– When you are down and feel really bad about where you are in life, help someone and see how it makes you feel. Studies have shown that doing good makes you feel good. Have you ever helped someone get groceries when they were sick? Have you ever helped someone move? Have you every visited a friend after they just had a baby? Have you ever opened a door for someone? When we help someone, we actually help ourselves to feel good.
As moms and dads, it’s not always easy to be positive, but we can try! My daughter is my inspiration. She is so positive about everything! Even when it’s raining, dark and cold outside, she’s happy. When it rains she looks up to the sky and tries to catch the raindrops in her mouth.
Here are some quotes on being positive:
“I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”
― Mark Twain
“An attitude of positive expectation is the mark of the superior personality.”
― Brian Tracy
“When you are joyful, when you say yes to life and have fun and project positivity all around you, you become a sun in the center of every constellation, and people want to be near you.”
― Shannon L. Alder
Hope this helps!